Comments on: Controlled Parenting http://www.practicingparents.com/2009/08/07/controlled-parenting/ Sun, 11 Jul 2010 00:35:47 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Lyn http://www.practicingparents.com/2009/08/07/controlled-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1242 Lyn Mon, 11 Jan 2010 20:55:52 +0000 http://www.practicingparents.com/?p=1405#comment-1242 Sometime between posts but here is an update. I made time with the kids to sit with them, encouraging them to put down what they thought could belong on the checklist. As they have 2 homes, I suggested a checklist for school afternoons before heading back to their mum, and weekend checklist for when their time is complete with us. I really wanted to sit back and allow them to start, rather than be the controlling adult and take over. They looked to me for some prompting and once giving one suggestion, their pens started moving. Now for the checklist to go into practice. The first step was empowering for the kids, but now to find a place for the checklist and put into practice. Stay tuned.... Sometime between posts but here is an update. I made time with the kids to sit with them, encouraging them to put down what they thought could belong on the checklist. As they have 2 homes, I suggested a checklist for school afternoons before heading back to their mum, and weekend checklist for when their time is complete with us.
I really wanted to sit back and allow them to start, rather than be the controlling adult and take over. They looked to me for some prompting and once giving one suggestion, their pens started moving.
Now for the checklist to go into practice. The first step was empowering for the kids, but now to find a place for the checklist and put into practice. Stay tuned….

]]> By: Tijah http://www.practicingparents.com/2009/08/07/controlled-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-825 Tijah Mon, 28 Sep 2009 02:49:57 +0000 http://www.practicingparents.com/?p=1405#comment-825 Hi Lyn, Empowering our children to think for themselves and assume some personal responsibility is essential, yet finding the balance, so as not to overburden them is the tricky part. I think your friend is on to a great idea…thank you for sharing it with us. I might just have to try it myself! Let us know how you get on. Hi Lyn,

Empowering our children to think for themselves and assume some personal responsibility is essential, yet finding the balance, so as not to overburden them is the tricky part. I think your friend is on to a great idea…thank you for sharing it with us. I might just have to try it myself! Let us know how you get on.

]]> By: Lyn http://www.practicingparents.com/2009/08/07/controlled-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-819 Lyn Sun, 27 Sep 2009 11:53:10 +0000 http://www.practicingparents.com/?p=1405#comment-819 A friend of mine gave me a suggestion to help with the kids and their responsibilities, and to help aid "letting go" as a parent. Our 10 year old who lives between 2 homes, often forgets things, school pass, cap and tie, books etc. A friend said, she encouraged her 8 yr old to write a list of things he needs to do in his day, and at the end of the day, she just says "Have you checked your list?" He is happy to check his list and do what hasn't been done and his mum feels free of the burden of being on his case. We're about to give this ago with our 10 year old. Will keep you posted. A friend of mine gave me a suggestion to help with the kids and their responsibilities, and to help aid “letting go” as a parent.
Our 10 year old who lives between 2 homes, often forgets things, school pass, cap and tie, books etc. A friend said, she encouraged her 8 yr old to write a list of things he needs to do in his day, and at the end of the day, she just says “Have you checked your list?” He is happy to check his list and do what hasn’t been done and his mum feels free of the burden of being on his case. We’re about to give this ago with our 10 year old. Will keep you posted.

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